In Chapter 6 of Emotions, Charles Stanley presents and discusses several telltale signs that someone is living with rejection. The first two signs are covered today.
1. A critical focus on yourself. Dr. Stanley states that perhaps the most obvious sign of being wounded by rejection we continually criticize ourselves when frustrations or problems occur. Our thought patterns are driven by the need to reach a certain standard of adequacy, love, and respect. If this is the case, we’re measuring ourselves by faulty standards- the defective opinions of sinful people. We should be concentrating on how Jesus sees us. Dr. Stanley adds:
“God sees you differently, and He knows you far better than anyone else ever would.”
2. A faultfinding view of others. This unsympathetic attitude is driven by a deep sense of inferiority. We are easily angered and constantly critical of others. While this strategy may give us temporary, short-term satisfaction, in the long run it never satisfies our deep longing for true forgiveness, acceptance, and worthiness. Rejection is the polar opposite of spiritual discernment, as Dr. Stanley describes:
“The vital difference between valid spiritual discernment and an attitude of rejection is your mindset toward the object of your criticism.”
Today’s question: Have either of these telltale signs surfaced in the aftermath of your ministry downsizing or vocation loss? Please share.
Tomorrow’s blog: “The consequences of rejection- Part 2”