Sara Horn begins Chapter 7 (“Getting Over It and Other Myths”) of How Can I Possibly Forgive? by discussing five myths we fall for when it comes to forgiveness. The first two forgiveness myths are presented in today’s blog.
1. Myth: Forgiveness should be easy. Sara astutely observes that “when we need it, forgiveness seems like it should be an easy thing to do. But it’s a whole lot harder when we’re asked to give it.” The author reminds us that when we forgive, we’re letting something go. Our natural inclination, however, is to hold on.
Our human nature leaves us emotional, impulsive, quick to judgment, and slow to consideration for others. But when Christ is in our heart, through the power of the Holy Spirit we don’t have to be enslaved by our sinful nature. We are a new creation (2 Corinthians 5:17). Sara concludes:
“So forgiveness isn’t easy for us, but it is possible with God. And when we rely on him to help us forgive someone of their wrongs, we can anticipate the newness he will do in our own lives.”
2. Myth: Forgiveness is optional. Sara notes that convincing ourselves we will get over our hurt or offense without forgiving someone is a Band-Aid fix. Many Scriptures, she adds, point to forgiveness as the best choice in life. We can’t have God’s peace in our lives and love in our hearts for him if we refuse to forgive. As Colossians 3:12-13 and Mark 11:25 state, forgiveness isn’t optional.
Today’s question: Have you bought into either of the first two forgiveness myths? Please share.
Coming Monday: the new Short Meditation, “Entertaining angels unawares”
Tomorrow’s blog: “The cost of forgiveness”
