Gary Chapman concludes Chapter 6 of Anger by analyzing how implosion destroys. Next, Dr. Chapman delineates how to diffuse anger turned inward. Often internalized anger expresses itself through passive-aggressive behavior. Although the angry person gives the appearance of serenity, eventually the anger emerges in other ways. Noncompliance illustrates such a response.
On the other hand, redirected anger transfers feelings away from the person or situation that sparked the anger. Another person or object takes the brunt. Unfortunately, this misplaced anger: (a) simply arouses more anger in the person taking the abuse; and (b) wholly fails to deal with the situation that provoked the original anger.
Sooner or later, Dr. Chapman emphasizes, anger held inside leads to resentment, bitterness, and often hatred. Scripture explicitly condemns these sinful responses to anger. Furthermore, the apostle Paul admonished in Ephesians 4:26-27:
“In your anger do not sin. Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold.”
Consequently, internalized anger that remains planted in an one’s heart results in hatred. As a result, turning that hatred into evil acts against the offender usurps the prerogative of God.
In addition, Dr. Chapman suggests two positive steps you can take to diffuse anger turned inward:
- First, admit the tendency to yourself. Verbally state the truth that you hold your anger inside. Next. confess that you find it difficult to share your angry feelings with others. Admit you hurt yourself by doing this.
- Second, admit your problem to a trusted friend or family member. If they cannot give you the help you need, seek out a pastor or counselor for suitable guidance.
Today’s question: Since implosion destroys, how can your apply Ephesians 4:26-27 to your situation? Please share.
Tomorrow’s blog: “Stand ready to forgive”
