“In pivotal moments . . . you will lean either away from God or into him. Lean in, hard. Even if you feel nothing. I did this, and eventually the feelings of intimacy returned. Just because you can’t feel God’s love doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you.”- Carey Nieuwhof
In Chapter 12 (“Your New Normal”) of Didn’t See It Coming, Carey Nieuwhof presents ten factors to help you recover from burnout. Pastor Nieuwhof covers the first three factors in today’s blog.
1. Tell someone. Most people, Carey observes, resist telling someone due to their pride. Yet, pride probably led you to burn out in the first place. Also, the author adds, community provides a way through burnout. Because when you’re isolated, nothing good happens. Finally, when you admit your burnout to others, you end up admitting it to yourself.
2. Develop a circle around you. Telling someone differs from seeking help. Although friends play a significant part in your recovery, they’re no substitute for professional help. Furthermore, most likely they’re overwhelmed by the depth of your symptoms.
However, close friends can walk you through it. And often, simple acts make the biggest difference. Plus, you need people who believe in you, especially when you no longer believe in yourself.
3. Keep leaning into God. From a theological viewpoint, Carey notes, you might think this third point should be listed first. But, Pastor Nieuwhof sees two challenges with this viewpoint:
- if your emotions aren’t working, it’s not likely you’ll feel God is there for you.
- the more spiritual you are, the more you might be tempted to think that you and God can handle your burnout privately.
Most noteworthy, God works through people. Sometimes this represents the most tangible form of God’s love. So, refuse to give up, for obedience > emotions. At some point, your emotions catch up to your obedience.
Today’s question: In pivotal moments, what Bible verses help you lean into God, hard? Please share.
Tomorrow’s blog: “The problem with pain – it’s selfish”
