“When we choose self-examination over judging, we confess with our lives that we don’t see as God does. Therefore, in humility, we surrender our verdicts to the one who judges righteously. . . . Unlike that of humans, God’s judgment is entirely accurate, loving, and wise.”- Rich Villodas
“Here is a trustworthy saying that deserves full acceptance; Christ Jesus came into the world to save sinners — of whom I (Paul) am the worst.”- 1 Timothy 1:15 (NIV)
Rich Villodas concludes Chapter 10 of The Narrow Path as he suggests three things to help us practice withholding judgment.
1. Cultivating the Language of ‘Puzzle.’ Writing in Emotionally Healthy Relationships, Pete and Geri Scazzero offer this phrase to help us reduce judgments: I’m puzzled. Because puzzled denotes a loving concept. Furthermore, using this phrase gives someone the opportunity to explain without your jumping to conclusions. Hence, I’m puzzled enables you to slow down to better understand. And the more you use it, the more fruit you bear.
2. Resisting Hierarchies of Sin. We find it very easy to judge another person based on our own strength in that area. However, Rich stresses, we all differ in our areas of weakness. Yet, we like to create hierarchies of sin that label some menial and others major.
Above all, Rich counsels, ranking sins usually vilifies others while excusing our own. But Jesus’ kingdom operates on a totally different paradigm. Therefore, Rich cautions:
“In daily life, this means that we must be on guard against the ‘sin lists’ we have created. These lists, oriented around our personal vendettas, reveal our view of God and what we think he cares about. . . . First and foremost, Jesus invites us to examine our own hearts and acknowledge the sin residing there.”
3. Studying the Prayer of Examen. In conclusion, Rich describes the prayer of Examen as a spiritual practice that helps us prayerfully review the day. Consequently, this approach centers God’s presence. In addition, it helps us live a steady life of confession and repentance.
Finally, the prayer of Examen provides the opportunity to receive grace for our shortcomings and strength for the day ahead.
Today’s question: What Bible verses center you on self-examination over judging? Please share.
Tomorrow’s blog: “A maze to navigate?”