“In confession the break-through to community takes place. . . . If a Christian is in the fellowship of confession with a brother, he will never be alone again, anywhere.”- Dietrich Bonhoeffer, Life Together
“If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.”- 1 John 1:8-9 (NKJV)
In Chapter 4 (“Unveiled Faces: Authenticity”) of Everybody’s Normal . . ., John Ortberg begins by talking about the game of peek-a-boo. Two simple rules, John quips, govern the game. First you peek. Then you boo. Certainly, John notes, adults rarely play this game with other adults. But an adult plays it with a child day after day, week after week.
Consequently, through this game, a child begins to learn independence. Furthermore, the child functions as a person who reveals him/herself. To know and be known.
Therefore, Pastor Ortberg observes:
“The Bible says you and I were created as independent persons made in the image of God, yet with the capacity to reveal ourselves and connect with others. . . . God himself set up a kind of rhythm of independence and intimacy with his human creatures. Like a wise parent, he offered them space to grow, so they could have full and rich lives which in turn they would freely choose to share with him.”
In conclusion, John states, part of deepening a relationship involves a progressive disclosure of who you are. Yet, one must proceed in a cautious manner. Fully aware that unattractive parts of us exist.
Yet, John asks us to imagine the wonder of Adam and Ever prior to the Fall. Every deed, word, and thought that passed through their minds brought unalloyed joy to the other person. The thought of hiding never occurred to them.
Today’s question: Do you join in the fellowship of confession with a trusted Christian brother or sister? Please share.
Tomorrow’s blog: “Prepared to do what’s wrong”