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      Forgiveness and anger- like oil and water?

      By Dave Henning / June 19, 2012

      When going through the process of forgiveness, do the feelings of anger that inevitably interject themselves compromise or jeopardize (guess what show I was watching when I wrote this) the whole process? Dr. David Stoop (Forgiving the Unforgivable) asserts that not only is it alright to get angry, anger is a necessary part of the […]

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        The role of grieving in the forgiveness process

        By Dave Henning / June 19, 2012

        In Chapter 6 (“The Path of Forgiveness”) of Forgiving the Unforgivable, Dr. David Stoops states: “Every painful offense involves a loss of some kind that can only be processed through grief.”  He describes 4 stages in this process.  Stages 1 and 4 are the bookends that hold the entire process together: 1.  Denial or self-blame […]

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          Defining forgiveness

          By Dave Henning / June 17, 2012

          The previous blog ended with Dr. Stoops (Forgiving the Unforgivable) commenting that we want to make certain offenses ‘unforgivable’ because we have misperceptions regarding what forgiveness is and is not. In order to check our belief system regarding forgiveness, Dr. Stoops states that it’s important to define exactly what is meant by forgiveness.  He cites […]

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            Doin’ what comes naturally

            By Dave Henning / June 16, 2012

            When unforgivable (from our point of view) offenses are committed against us, Dr. David Stoops (Forgiving the Unforgivable) says that our natural desire for justice often leads to thoughts of revenge- and that those thoughts often are quite enjoyable.  Yet, revenge never brings satisfaction.  Dr. Stoops cites an old Chinese proverb- “He who seeks revenge […]

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              Forgiveness- concept or action?

              By Dave Henning / June 15, 2012

              In his conclusion to Let It Go,  T. D. Jakes reminds us that forgiveness is not a noun, but a verb.  From his many years of experience as a pastor, he ventures that forgiveness is underutilized by adults: “People often believe it’s important conceptually but reserve forgiveness for a few moments in a prayer at […]

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                Churches today- places of healing or dis-ease?

                By Dave Henning / June 14, 2012

                In Chaper 13 (“Physician, Heal Thyself”), T. D. Jakes notes that people’s perceptions of the church run the gamut from ‘shoots its own wounded’ to extremely positive/faith-building. Regardless where we find ourselves on that spectrum, Bishop Jakes posits that most of us would agree on the following 2 conclusions: “First, the church should be a […]

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                  Tending your spiritual garden

                  By Dave Henning / June 13, 2012

                  T. D. Jakes (Let It Go) has vivid childhood memories of his grand mother talking to each flower in her garden and diligently removing any weed that dared to show up.  Observing this annual ritual taught Bishop Jakes a valuable lesson- expert gardeners do not tolerate weeds. We must tend our hearts in the same […]

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                    God’s love and recess

                    By Dave Henning / June 12, 2012

                    When we are in our desert, Land Between transition period following our ministry downsizing or position loss, we may at times find it difficult to perceive or accept God’s grace and love.  We may tend to over-analyze or ruminate on our situation and circumstances, past and present. According to T. D. Jakes, the solution is […]

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                      Grace space

                      By Dave Henning / June 11, 2012

                      Reflecting on what the Lord’s Prayer teaches about forgiveness, Bishop T. D. Jakes (Let It Go) states that it will be difficult for us to forgive others if we are not eternally grateful for the forgiveness God grants to us. But are we prepared, Bishop Jakes asks, to have God treat our sins the way […]

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                        Trickle-down mercy

                        By Dave Henning / June 11, 2012

                        In Chapter 10 (“Mercy Me”) of Let It Go, T. D. Jakes states that while a “trickle-down” economic theory may be a flawed system, the theory is quite appropriate when applied to God’s mercy.  Just as the mercy God extends to us is”new every morning” (Lamentations 3:23), our demonstration of mercy is an extension of God’s love […]

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                          Restoring emotional and spiritual health

                          By Dave Henning / June 10, 2012

                          In Let It Go Bishop t. D. Jakes describes what is necessary to retore healthy functionality: “The speed with which we recover from our wounds is often directly proportional to our awareness of our flaws and our willingness to move forward and risk again.” Forgiveness is a key element in restoring our emotional  and spiritual […]

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                            Insulator, isolator, or inhibitor?

                            By Dave Henning / June 9, 2012

                            T. D. Jakes (Let It Go) describes three basic ways people internalize their reaction to being wounded: 1.  The insulator– wraps him/herself in a protective layer that keeps people from penetrating the heart and creating additional hurt.  The possibility of human intimacy is smothered by the fear that what happened in the past will recur.  […]

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