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Efforts of control or efforts of compassion?

By Dave Henning / March 11, 2021

“I want them (friends, co-workers, family members) saved, but I am not their Savior. . . .  They need Jesus.  They need self-control.  So I shift from efforts of control to efforts of compassion.  Compassion lets me love the person, empathize with their pain, and acknowledge their side of things, even if I don’t agree […]

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The currency of relationships

By Dave Henning / July 3, 2020

“Trust is the currency of relationships.  It is the basis upon which we let people into our lives.  When a person is betrayed, the greatest casualty is that trust.  It is also the most difficult to get back.”- Phil Waldrep In Chapter 10 (“Healing”), the concluding chapter of Beyond Betrayal, Phil Waldrep reminds us that […]

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Knowing right from wrong — or knowing God

By Dave Henning / October 4, 2018

“We are more interested in knowing right from wrong ( a dominantly left-brain hemisphere function used to cope with fear and shame) than knowing God, which requires integration of all parts of the brain.”- Christian psychologist Curt Thompson, Anatomy of the Soul Alison Cook and Kimberly Miller conclude Chapter 14 of Boundaries for Your Soul […]

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Put boundaries around your chaotic feelings

By Dave Henning / September 18, 2018

“Anger can feel chaotic, and so can other emotions.  The task is to let God help you put boundaries around your chaotic feelings. . . .  But just as God contained chaos ‘in the beginning,’ with his help you can grow to love the most difficult parts of yourself and find that ‘the boundary lines […]

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Reconciliation – setting boundaries, restoring peace

By Dave Henning / September 14, 2018

“Applied internally, reconciliation involves setting boundaries and restoring peace among the adversarial members of your internal family.”-Alison Cook and Kimberly Miller Jesus knew their thoughts and said to them: “Any kingdom divided against itself will be ruined, and a house divided against itself will fall.”- Luke 11:17 “Keep your friends close and your enemies closer.”- […]

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Unhealthy ways of relating to painful emotions

By Dave Henning / August 19, 2018

“There are two opposite, unhealthy ways of relating to your painful emotions.  You can keep them too close to you, or you can push them too far away.  If they’re too close, your risk being overwhelmed by them.  If they’re too far, you risk being cut off from them, only to be influenced by them […]

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Prerequisites for restored relationships

By Dave Henning / March 20, 2016

Today June Hunt discusses the prerequisites for restored relationships as part of the fourth stage of forgiveness. Stage Four: Find Oneness.  In his book A Minute of Margin, author and physician Richard Swenson said: “It is not revenge that heals.  It is not litigation, or time, or distance that heals.  It is forgiveness and- when […]

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