The Gift of Limitations (Zondervan, 2024) Sara Hagerty, a lifetime love of words, titles her latest book The Gift of Limitations: Finding Beauty in Your Boundaries. Until we find ourselves face-to-face with them, limitations function as often invisible but unyielding forces in our lives. As a result, we live in the tension of too much […]
“The paradox of God is that within the boundaries we resent there is life that is limitless in Him. And we cannot see that limitlessness without the boundaries that we’ve been praying for decades would lift. When they don’t move, we become more inclined to find Him within them.”- Sara Hagerty Sara Hagerty concludes Chapter […]
“Life within limits — the boundaries of the seasons — mirrors the life within limits our Father grants. When we live where we are, we remember what we often forget: there is so much to see here, so much to consume. We twenty-first century humans . . . climb into the worlds we see on […]
“I believe there’s a day ahead for us when the fence line looks the same but our hearts are different. Our hearts are alive. They know where to turn when the fence line catches their attention. They know their maker and they rest where they are.”- Sara Hagerty “The boundary lines have fallen for me […]
“There’s a big difference between waiting for a breaking point and establishing a breaking point. . . . Establishing a breaking point can sometimes be a boundary that helps a relationship stay healthy. It clears up the nebulous questions around what is and is not permitted between you and the other person. That clarity will […]
“Good boundaries bring relief to the grief of letting other people’s opinions, issues, desires, and agendas run our life. But if we see boundaries as a one-way ticket to acting unkind, unchristian, or uncaring, there will be no relief.”- Lysa TerKeurst In Chapter 8 (“Trying to Make Someone Else Happy Shouldn’t Be Your Definition of […]
“In every relationship there are patterns of relating. If you change the pattern and the other person doesn’t agree with the change, there will be agitation. The tension exists because you are doing the difficult work of no longer cooperating with dysfunction.”- Lysa TerKeurst “What people don’t work out, they act out. When someone doesn’t […]
“If you are smelling smoke, there is fire. And the only reasonable option at this point is either put out the fire or get yourself out of the fire. Drawing boundaries can help put our fires before they become all-consuming. . . . boundaries aren’t just a good idea, they are a God idea.”- Lysa […]
“Boundaries aren’t meant to shove love away. Quite the opposite. We set boundaries so we know what we want to do when we very much want to love those around us really well without losing ourselves in the process. Good boundaries help us preserve the love within us.”- Lysa TerKeurst “A new command I give […]
“Weary traveler, restless soul / You were never meant to walk this world alone. /It’ll all be worth it, so just hold on. / Weary traveler, you won’t be weary long.”- Jordan St. Cyr “Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do […]
“I want them (friends, co-workers, family members) saved, but I am not their Savior. . . . They need Jesus. They need self-control. So I shift from efforts of control to efforts of compassion. Compassion lets me love the person, empathize with their pain, and acknowledge their side of things, even if I don’t agree […]
“Trust is the currency of relationships. It is the basis upon which we let people into our lives. When a person is betrayed, the greatest casualty is that trust. It is also the most difficult to get back.”- Phil Waldrep In Chapter 10 (“Healing”), the concluding chapter of Beyond Betrayal, Phil Waldrep reminds us that […]