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The Peninnah effect – comparing

By Dave Henning / September 21, 2023

“If I compare, I become discouraged.  The discouragement dial gets turned up when our way isn’t working, but even more so when everyone else seems to be doing just fine.  We can call this the ‘Peninnah effect.’ “- Kyle Idleman ” ‘Why are you crying, Hannah?’  Elkanah would ask.  ‘Why aren’t you eating?  Why be […]


Individuality – the most concern

By Dave Henning / July 16, 2019

“The people I know who are the most concerned about their individuality, who probe constantly into motives, who are always turned inwards toward their own reactions, usually become less and less spontaneous, more and more afraid of the consequences of giving themselves away.”- Madeleine L’Engle, A Circle of Quiet In Chapter 22 (“Walk into a […]


Scorekeepers – a powerful influence

By Dave Henning / July 15, 2018

“We are, by nature, scorekeepers. . . . Our sense of score exerts a powerful influence over our lives.  Our behavior is inevitably aimed at achieving a higher point total.”- John Ortberg “Some wonderful, dazzling success are going to happen for some of the most awful, angry, undeserving people you know — people who are, […]

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