“Resentment is bittersweet. If we did not cherish it, we would let it go. . . . [We] enjoy the feeling of hurt that the memory kindles. . . . We feel noble and worthy as the decent person who was wrongly hurt. Resentments serve a double-purpose: they give us treasured pain, and they give […]
“Resentment is usually attached to a specific person for a specific incident. Bitterness is usually the collective feeling of all our resentments. But however you define these words, they are part of the same problem.”- Lysa TerKeurst In Chapter 13 (“Bitterness is a Bad Deal That Makes Big Promises”) of Forgiving What You Can’t Forget, […]
“We all have a Buster. Or two or ten. . . . Maybe you’ve moved on. If not, a question needs to be raised regarding your happiness. Resentment sucks satisfaction from the soul. Bitterness consumes it. Revenge is a monster with a monstrous appetite. . . . Left unchecked, grudges send us on a downward […]
“And once you get it (your jealousies) all gathered up in one pile of discontentment, you need to pour out your heart to him. All your frustration. All your discontent. Let God know that you know he could have done better by you. . . . Go ahead and tell him how unhappy you’ve been […]
“When the offense is severe, forgiveness does not happen easily. Real forgiveness is a slow, difficult, painful process.”- June Hunt In Chapter 8 (“Rocks Aren’t Removed Overnight- The Four Stages of Forgiveness”) of How to Forgive, June Hunt states that while forgiveness ultimately is freeing, typically forgiveness is not fast. Boulders of bitterness cannot be […]
In Chapter 1 of Simplify, Bill Hybels tells of the time a few years ago when he felt so depleted for months that his wife and kids suggested he spend time at the family cottage in Michigan- alone. God took the scales off Pastor Hybels’ eyes in a little grocery store in town when he […]
In Chapter 3 (“In Seasons of Rumble”) of How Can I Possibly Forgive?, author Sara Horn notes that when rainstorms occur in Louisiana, the rumble of thunder miles away can go on and on for a long time. While the rumble of thunder is subdued, you definitely know it is there. The sound keeps going, […]
Today Sara Horn concludes her discussion of Seven Habits of Highly Resentful People in Chapter 2 of How Can I Possibly Forgive?. 3. A highly resentful person is constantly disappointed by others and by life in general. Many of the disappointments we face in life are legitimate and hurtful. However, resentment can take hold of […]
“It (love) is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth.”- 1 Corinthians 13:5-6 “Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies.”- Nelson Mandela In Chapter 2 (“Letting Go of the Hurt”) of How Can I Possibly Forgive?, Sara Hor observes that when […]