“The Bible word for separate is kadosh. It’s often translated as ‘holy.’ . . . God separated so that he could join together in ever-more-complex systems of thriving and delight. To be holy is to become useful (emphasis author’s).”- John Ortberg
In Chapter 3 (“Born to Bond”) of I’d Like You More . . . , John Ortberg talks about the impact of attachment. Hence, he observes that vulnerability drives us to someone who cares for us. That person, in turn, engages in soothing behavior, promising that everything will be okay.
As Neal Plantinga notes, God uses separating and joining to create “the building of shalom, the re-webbing of God, humanity, and all creation in justice, harmony, fulfillment, and delight.” In addition, neurologists describe how this process plays out in the brain. For example, every experience joins specific neural pathways and separates other ones. This separation and linkage produces integration. It’s the individual brain’s version of shalom.
Thus, the brain and mind of a little child literally form through the power of the spoken word. This reflects the awesome power of attachment. Also, we don’t have to be perfect at doing this. Nor can we achieve this. John explains the results when two people get it right:
“When we get it right, though, we know they love us. In our vulnerability, we run to them, and while we receive the joy of being comforted, they receive the joy of giving comfort. We ‘feel felt.’ Their strength is wired into us. Their voices literally get inside our heads. . . . Vulnerability. Attachment. Courage. Risk. Fear. Repeat. We can’t survive without intimacy.”
Today’s question: How do the concepts of separate and join apply to your relationship with God and others? Please share.
Tomorrow’s blog: “God’s primary goal for us – character, not innocence”
