“When you loosen your grip on your plans and let the One who gave you your blue flame tell you what you’re supposed to do next, it will be scary at first. Eventually. . . . you’ll get better at recognizing the intangible elements of the decision-making process: your gut instinct will become more honed, […]
“Where’s an area where I can handle the pain of work better than the people around me? The area where you are more well-equipped to suffer is the work you were meant to do.”- James Clear, entrepreneur In Chapter 4 (“You Can Stop Feeling Self-Indulgent”) of Your Blue Flame, Jennifer describes what happens when you […]
“When you start seeking your blue flame, you’ll find that it’s sitting right there, waiting for you to encounter it. But you might need to do some digging to unearth it. For many of us, our blue flames end up smothered under a lifetime of fears and doubts and hang-ups.”- Jennifer Fulwiler In Chapter 3 […]
“After my conversion (to Christianity), when I prayed for direction about what I was destined to do, instead of just thinking about what I personally wanted to do, I suddenly received clarity. I felt moved to start a blog.”- Jennifer Fulwiler Jennifer Fulwiler concludes Chapter 2 of Your Blue Flame as she talks about the […]
“After years of redefining the definition (of blue flame) on the basis of my onw experience as well as a lot of conversations with friends and clergy and expert guests on my radio show, here is how I’ve come to define a blue flame: It is something you do, and were destined to do, that […]
“God gave us a beautiful, incredible gift when he made us. When other people give you a gift, do you say, ‘Gee thanks, but let me hide this away under an ugly bushel basket right in front of you.’ No. We put our gifts to good use even though that might take us out of […]
“Trust is the currency of relationships. It is the basis upon which we let people into our lives. When a person is betrayed, the greatest casualty is that trust. It is also the most difficult to get back.”- Phil Waldrep In Chapter 10 (“Healing”), the concluding chapter of Beyond Betrayal, Phil Waldrep reminds us that […]
“One of the hardest steps for anybody who has been betrayed is accepting the grace of God. If God gives grace, His unmerited favor to my betrayer, can I be mad about that?”- Phil Waldrep Phil Waldrep concludes Chapter 9 of Beyond Betrayal as he underscores our need to remember that grace welcomes home the […]
“When we leave conflicts and issues in the Redeemer’s hands, He can make us better than we were. We become stronger, wiser, and deeper.”- Phil Waldrep “Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse, you, pray for those who abuse you.”- Luke 6:27-28 (ESV) In Chapter 9 of Beyond […]
“Both a scab and a scar show a wound occurred. The difference between a wound and a scar is whether it hurts when it is touched. If it still hurts, healing isn’t complete. If it doesn’t hurt, healing has occurred.”- Phil Waldrep “As I walked out the door toward the gate that would lead to […]
“It’s very hard to love well if you don’t believe that your love means anything. It has to come from a place of self-respect — a place of awareness that you are a creation of God with a unique God-given purpose. It has to have its roots in knowing your life matters. . . . […]
“Anger isn’t wrong, but it is a warning sign that something isn’t right in your world. It’s there to alert you for your protection. Staying on alert for too long and acting under that pressure is where problems often occur. Assess your situation, control your responses, and act constructively.”- Phil Waldrep Phil Waldrep concludes Chapter […]