Cure for the fear of failure

“The cure for the fear of failure is failure in small enough doses that we build up an immunity to it.”- Mark Batterson

“There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear.”- 1 John 4:18

Mark Batterson concludes Chapter 12 of Chase the Lion by offering his definition of faith:

  • half of faith = learning what we don’t know
  • the other half = unlearning irrational fears and false assumptions

In addition, Pastor Batterson notes, psychologists tell us we’re born with two fears- the fear of falling and the fear of loud noises.  Therefore, we learn every other fear.  And that means every other fear can be unlearned.  Faith, then, is the process of unlearning those fears.

Since true love leads to fearlessness, it’s God’s love that sets us free from the spirit of fear.  Often God accomplishes this by bringing us face to face with our worst fears.  Mark explains:

“He [God] graciously brings us back to the place of failure, and then He not only helps us pick up the broken pieces but He also put them back together again.”

As a result, lion chasers run toward the roar.  Rather than seeking safety, Mark observes, lion chasers seek “situations that scare them to life.”

At National Community Church, they’ve inverted an old axiom: “Go. Set. Ready.”  That’s because no one’s ever ready.  Hence, the issues becomes willingness, not readiness.

In conclusion, Pastor Batterson outlines the role of faithfulness in this process:

“Faithfulness isn’t holding down the fort until Jesus returns.  Faithfulness is taking back enemy territory by shining light in dark places.”

Today’s question: What Scriptures have helped you overcome the fear of failure?  Please share.

Tomorrow’s blog: “The theory of compensation”

 

Our greatest shortcoming

“I think our greatest shortcoming is not feeling good enough about what God has done right.  When we undercelebrate, we fall short of the glory of God.”- Mark Batterson

As Mark Batterson concludes Chapter 7 of Chase the Lion, he notes that after an upset Israelite victory over the Philistines, Samuel built an altar.  Next, Samuel named that altar ‘Ebenezer.’   Ebenezer means “hitherto hath the Lord helped us.”  Similarly, Ebenezer moments occur in every dream journey.  Hence, we celebrate those milestones by building altars.

In the process, we surround ourselves with life symbols.  That’s so we don’t forget what God wants us to remember.  In addition, Pastor Batterson explains the significance of altar-building:

“An altar reminds us that the God who did it before can do it again.  It’s not just a token of God’s faithfulness.  It’s a statement of faith: the God who got us here will get us there, and the God who did this will do that.”

Therefore, Mark encourages, we not only need to celebrate more; we need to celebrate better.  For example, the initials SFSG appear on the coffee sleeves at Ebenezers Coffeehouse- a ministry of National Community Church.  Those initials stand for “So Far So God.”  As Pastor Batterson quips, NCC “took good out of the equation and added God.”

In conclusion, Mark subscribes to a two-fold litmus test in discerning the will of God: “You have to be released from and called to.”  As a result, if God has released you, you need to let it go- and not look back.

Rather, focus on how God’s calling you to resurrect your dream.

Today’s question: How would you describe your greatest shortcoming during your desert, transition time?  Please share.

Tomorrow’s blog: the new Short Meditation, “God is in control”

Our impossible situations

“God never asks us to figure out a solution to our impossible situations.  Instead, he calls us to trust him.”- Dr. Wayne Stiles

Jesus looked at them and said, “With man it is impossible, but not with God.  For all things are possible with God.”- Mark 10:27 (ESV)

Dr. Wayne Stiles concludes Chapter 8 of Waiting on God by affirming that we find impossible situations frustrating.  On the other hand, Wayne states, “God intends those unreasonable and often unbearable circumstances to encourage us to the next round. . . . We connect what we learn about God’s faithfulness in one area of life to all other areas of life.”

Therefore, if we consistently flee from the pain faithfulness demands of us, we won’t experience the joy of God’s power.  As Wayne emphasizes, “God’s miracles require impossible contexts.”  Furthermore, a lengthy period of waiting and faithfulness witnesses that only God provides blessings, success, and goodness in our lives.

As Jacob journeyed to Egypt with his sons to reunite with Joseph, God graciously encouraged Jacob to follow the Lord’s leading.  Dr. Stiles reminds us that those promises remain true for us as well:

“Like Jacob, we receive few specifics from God when he initiates change, but he gives us everything we need to take the next few steps.  His Word, like a lamp, show us only our next few steps.  (Sometimes this means waiting.)  And like Jacob, we have the assurance of God’s presence with us . . .”

Yet, sometimes we don’t even recognize that we’re waiting on God for blessings He alone knows He’ll give us.

Today’s question: During your desert, transformational time after your ministry downsizing or vocation loss, how have you trusted God in yur impossible situations?  Please share.

Tomorrow’s blog: “Joy only God can give”

Slammed doors

“Slammed doors do more than bend your nose; they keep your heart pliable, sensitive, and available to God’s leading.”-Wayne Stiles

Dr. Wayne Stiles concludes Chapter 6 of Waiting on God by observing that “circumstances always change our minds about God.”  Circumstances either (a) tempt us to doubt God’s promises or (b) draw us closer to Him.

Therefore, we must remember that our goal in our struggles lies well outside of attempting to understand God’s plan.  Conversely, God desires our trust in Him through simple daily obedience in little things.  Furthermore, Wayne states, “little things begin in little places.”

As we make our way up the ladder, it’s easy to let go of the previous rung.  Once we reach our goal, however, it becomes much harder to release that rung- especially if God requires us to give it back or we experience slammed doors.

Just like Joseph, we musts grow to understand that God views faithfulness– on any level- as success.   Otherwise, we may be tempted to ask, Why isn’t God using me like I want to be used? (emphasis author’s)

Dr. Stiles explains:

“You may fail to recognize God using you significantly because you define God ‘using you’ in terms of what you consider significant results.  But God often defines results in terms of character.  Words like productivity and efficiency remain conspicuously absent from the fruit of the Spirit (see Gal. 5:22-23).  These results of God working in your life all reflect character- his character.  Character alone produces godly results.”

When your heart feels a tug toward big things, remember the Lord takes delight in little things He alone sees.  For little things reveal the heart.

Today’s question: During your desert, transition time, how have slammed doors turned out to be blessings?  Please share.

Tomorrow’s blog: the new Short Meditation, “Strong enough?”

Demonstrate faith

“Joseph saw what seemed to contradict God’s promise as an opportunity to demonstrate faith- not a reason to doubt or abandon it.”- Wayne Stiles

Dr. Wayne Stiles continues Chapter 6 of Waiting on God by empathizing that there will be days in life where you truly believe you can’t hold out.  As the author poignantly states, “The weight of disappointment feels far heavier and more real than the promise of God that lies beyond it.”

With the exception of an abusive situation, Dr. Stiles advises, take it one day at a time.  Then, one day you’ll wake up and realize you’ve endured a difficult situation for months or years.  While others scoff and call your faith stance crazy or a waste of life, God calls it perseverance.

Standing up to a heavy load glorifies God.  In addition, Dr. Stiles reminds us, the victorious Christian life presupposes a battle:

“The victory in the Christian life comes as a victory of choice in the midst of a life that suffers.  The quality of life rests in our attitude, not in our circumstances.  To realize something is to consider it to be real.  And when you realize endurance finds favor with God, it can bring peace and joy to any troubled situation.”

Therefore, we glorify God just as much through our waiting for Him as by serving Him in a fulfilling vocation or ministry.  These situations provide a marvelous opportunity to demonstrate faith.

Waiting on God keeps us humble.  Over the passing of time, we come to understand that it’s all about God.  In conclusion, Wayne states that we find our fulfillment in God’s glory:

“When we choose to find our fulfillment in his glory, then we can wait on him to open the doors of greater influence in his time.  That’s really his business entirely.  Ours is to live faithfully wherever he puts us now.”

Today’s question: What Bible verses enable you to demonstrate faith following your ministry downsizing or vocation loss?  Please share.

Tomorrow’s blog: “Does God have a deaf ear?”

 

Faithfulness in obscurity

“God sees our faithfulness in obscurity as preparation for increasing influence.”- Dr. Wayne Stiles

“Let us not lose heart in doing good, for in due time we will reap if we do not grow weary.”- Galatians 6:9

In Chapter 6 (“The Opportunity of Obscurity”) of Waiting on God, Wayne Stiles states that while waiting on God, we really want to know when progress will happen.  However, God in His sovereignty determines that we only need to know what should occupy us in the meantime.

As a result, faithfulness in obscurity eventually leads to increasing influence- for which God alone gets the glory.  However, during times of obscurity, we mistakenly believe nothing important is happening to us.  Consequently, we implore God to remove us from our insignificance.

Consider Jesus’ words from The Parable of the Talents:

“His master said to him, ‘Well done, good and faithful servant.  You have been faithful over a little; I will set you over much.’ “- Matthew 25:21

Wayne reminds us that little things make big things.  For example, pennies make dollars and verses make Bibles.  Yet, unless we’re careful, we can fall into the trap of thinking that our insignificant actions matter little.  Furthermore, if we mess up, no big deal.  No one notices.  In addition, the world continues in orbit.  However, God notices.

French mathematician and Christian philosopher Blaise Pascal perfectly expressed the contrast between great and little things:

“Lord, help me do great things as though they were little, since I do them with your powers.  And help me do little things as though they were great, because I do them in your name.”

Today’s question: How have you demonstrated faithfulness in obscurity following your ministry downsizing or vocation loss?  Please share.

Tomorrow’s blog: “A buffet lunch”

 

God’s goal for leading us

“God’s goal for leading us, it seems, isn’t to take us somewhere as much as it is for us to follow.”- Dr. Wayne Stiles

In Chapter 5 of Waiting on God, Wayne Stiles observes that on occasion our walk with God feels like we’re the butt of some juvenile prank.  God points the direction. Then, we walk and walk and walk in circles.  Never do we turn a corner.  Like walking or running on a treadmill, we follow but go nowhere.

Similarly, the Hebrew text literally refers to the jail where Joseph stayed as the “house of roundness,” or “the Round House.”  In addition, Psalm 105:18-19 adds some details of Joseph’s imprisonment not recorded in the Genesis account:

“His feet were hurt with fetters; his neck was put in a collar of iron; until what he had said had come to pass, the word of the Lord tested him.”

Yet, the fetters and the collar probably seemed insignificant compared to the greatest affliction of his imprisonment- the waiting.  There God tested Joseph.  In the original Hebrew, tested refers to the process of refining silver.  Furthermore, refining takes time- until God’s word came to pass.

While in prison, Joseph intentionally chose to live in a positive frame of mind.  Because Joseph had peace with God, he looked beyond his own pain and noticed the lives of others.

Joseph took an active approach while waiting for God.  As he followed, he focused on God’s faithfulness and presence.  Hence, Dr. Stiles applies Joseph’s approach to our lives:

“Waiting on God doesn’t prohibit us from takin initiative or trying to change unjust circumstances.  We don’t merely lie back and mutter, ‘Oh, I’m just trusting God with this.’  God gave us brains to think with . . .”

Today’s question: How can you be intentional in your focus on God’s goal for leading?  Please share.

Tomorrow’s blog: “The taproot of life”

 

 

The proper time

“The eyes of all look to you, and you give them their food at the proper time.”- Psalm 145:15

Wayne Stiles concludes Chapter 4 of Waiting on God by noting that when the apostle Paul penned, “Love is patient,” he literally wrote, “Love is being patient.”  The original Greek word defines patience as a continual decision we make.

Therefore, although waiting on God seems passive, reality indicates otherwise.  In addition, Dr. Stiles explains:

“. . . waiting is a very active part of living.  Waiting on God, if we do it correctly, is anything but passive.  Waiting works its way out in very deliberate actions, very intentionally searching the Scriptures and praying, intense moments of humility, and self-realization of our finiteness.  With the waiting comes learning. . . . God made his creatures to live in dependence on their Creator. . . . Dependence demands waiting.”

Demanding instant gratification, even for good things, trivializes and overlooks the priceless worth of God’s sovereignty.  Consequently, Wayne states, “our faithfulness to God must find its motivation in our resolve, not its results.”

That’s because God often keeps quite about why he allows specific adversities in our lives.  Our sovereign God handles all our questions with ease.  However, we cannot handle all of His answers.  As a result, often God’s best answer to us is to say nothing.

Most noteworthy, God promises us His presence- a need far beyond our comprehension.  Even though we lack understanding, deep down we know that He understands.  Because He’s with us, that’s enough!

Today’s question: What Scriptures enable you to wait on God for the proper time?  Please share.

Tomorrow’s blog: “God’s goal for leading us”

Failure to wait on God

Every sin we commit represents a failure to wait on God.”- Dr. Wayne Stiles

As Wayne Stiles continues Chapter 4 of Waiting on God, he emphasizes that “waiting on God for satisfaction extends . . . to our entire walk with God.”  Our failure to wait on God for satisfaction often comes because the new life God transitions us toward seems inferior to our previous life.

Furthermore, in the moments we struggle with discouragement, selective memory betrays us into considering only half the truth.  Consequently, as Dr. Stiles describes, we focus on material loss rather than spiritual benefit:

“Our minds focus on all the sensory losses and none of the spiritual benefits.  It’s never the lack of spiritual connection with God we remember from the past.  It’s the pleasure of sin’s shortcuts to immediate gratification.”

As a result of God removing something abundant from our lives, a number of emotional triggers kick in.  Dr. Stiles lists six:

  1. anger with God
  2. temptation to sin
  3. coveting someone else’s life
  4. making happiness the top priority
  5. taking what looks good without giving thought to the consequences
  6. believing one should get more for one’s hard work

Therefore, waiting on God seems all academic and impractical.  In the court of human opinion, God seems to play unfairly.  Hence, our definition of faithfulness assumes priority, as Wayne explains:

“He [God] fails to keep his promises when we define his faithfulness in terms of our ideal life. . . . We set up the standards by which God should rule the world, and then we crucify him when he lets us down.

When God fails to open the door for us to enter our ideal life, its tempting just to chase it ourselves.  We’ll issue God an ultimatum, and if he misses the deadline we’ll assume he approves.”

Today’s question: How has failure to wait on God expressed itself in your thoughts and actions?  Please share.

Tomorrow’s blog: “The proper time”

Hope while we wait

“God selected events to give us hope while we wait.”- Wayne Stiles

“Whatever was written in earlier times was written for our instruction, so that through perseverance and the encouragement of the Scriptures we might have hope.”- Romans 15:4

As Dr. Wayne Stiles continues Chapter 1 of Waiting on God, he notes that we try to fill up the monotonous cracks in life with significant experiences.  However, Dr. Stiles reminds us, mundane days remain an essential path to great days.  While God arranges great days, He also arranges the gaps.

When we’re in the gaps, we wait on God.  But, as Wayne explains, we need a goal other than significance:

“We’re not waiting on God for significant days.  That never works.  If we live for the hope of seeing significant days in life, we’ll toss in the towel.  The gaps are simply too long.  We need a different goal: faithfulness rather than significance. . . . If the Lord chooses to make a day significant, that’s great.  But that’s his business entirely.  Significant days are God’s to ordain, not ours to arrange or manipulate.”

As a result, seeking significance in the midst of interminable gaps exacerbates the consequences of our fallen nature.  For example, the sin of coveting rears its ugly head.  Wanting more than others is preferable, equality acceptable.  Less than others?- no.

Furthermore, unfair situations aggravate our sense of injustice.  Jealousy oozes through our thin veneer of humility.  Hence, Dr. Stiles counters with God’s perspective:

“As we stand before the Father, we receive his generosity, not his equity.  Unfair isn’t so bad after all.  God has doted on us far more than we deserve.  He simply applies a different measure of grace to different people- for his sovereign purposes.  But it’s grace all the same.  Undeserved.”

Today’s question: Following your vocation loss, what gives “hope while we wait”?  Please share.

Tomorrow’s blog: the Annotated Bibliography of Anger: Taming a Powerful Emotion