“We live in a battlefield of contradicting information, mystifying actions by people with mixed motives, and having to live with inequities and pain we did nothing to cause or deserve. Though we may have given our lives to God individually, we are still in an enemy battleground where our rules for fairness don’t always apply […]
“Betrayers are charismatic, friendly, and can appear altruistic, generous, and loving. They play the part of being a good, moral person who is above reproach so that nothing interferes with their secret life.”- Phil Waldrep “As soon as Judas the bread, Satan entered into him. So Jesus told him, ‘What you are about to do, […]
“Ultimately, selfishness drowns out both their (betrayer’s) love for others and the voice of reason and right. I think every betrayal, in its own way, is an allegiance to something other than love, other than the person they are hurting. . . . It’s a crisis of character.”- Phil Waldrep As Phil Waldrep continues Chapter […]
“In a situation that presents a trade-off between something a betrayer wants and hurting another person, the betrayer is willing to trade in that relationship to get what they want. They choose gratification over love. But truthfully, it’s not really a choice for them. . . . All they see is what they want.”- Phil […]
“Betrayal is a devastating blow to your trust in a person or group of persons. Your feelings and reactions are real, raw, and natural. Admit your disbelief and anger. Start processing them in a healthy way.”- Phil Waldrep Phil Waldrep concludes Chapter 2 of Beyond Betrayal as he talks about the last four actions that […]
“You need to walk through [your betrayal] with someone else: a friend, a counselor, a pastor, someone . . . . Especially if you want to heal from it sooner rather than later.”- Phil Waldrep ” ‘In your anger do not sin.’ Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and […]
“The betrayal takes over our thought life. . . . It can destroy our faith in trust and love. Where we saw good before, now we see only uncertainty and darkness. The heat of our anger, our shame, and our desire to get even rises to feverish levels. We see everything around us not through […]
“Betrayal is a violation of trust. The more we love the person that betrays us . . . the more it hurts when they break our trust. The more you love or have invested in that person, the more earth-shattering their betrayal.”- Phil Waldrep (emphasis author’s) In Chapter 2 (“Trust”) of Beyond Betrayal, Phil Waldrep […]
“Betrayal is very personal and affects us at a deep, emotional level. But it says more about the selfishness of the betrayer than it says about you. Your goal is to prevent the betrayal and the betrayer from defining who you are. Be proactive — not reactive.”- Phil Waldrep Phil Waldrep concludes Chapter 1 of […]
“Being betrayed is often a shock. The emotions we feel associated with it can be overwhelming. In processing your feelings to work towards healing, it’s good to have an outlet for those feelings. You must find a way to look at things more objectively.”- Phil Waldrep “Even my close friend in whom I trust, who […]
“Honestly, I don’t know of any other pain in life that’s worse than being betrayed by someone close to you. It changes everything. After such an experience, the world is simply a different place — one far darker and crueler than you ever thought possible before.”- Phil Waldrep “It is easier to forgive an enemy […]
“We are called to be manna makers. Just as Jesus has come to give us life by his presence, we can be an extension of him to others. Since God has come to dwell among us, we get the benefit of letting his love and light flow out of us in hopes that others might […]