All posts in " coping mechanisms "

Missing the gifts of God

By Dave Henning / April 21, 2024

“We are making ourselves sick with our coping.  We think that in our checking out and numbing out, we are relaxing, but the truth is, we are missing the gifts of God that are meant to keep us in delightful relationship with Him.”- Jennifer Allen Jennifer Allen concludes Chapter 5 of Untangle Your Emotions with […]


Gently collect the broken pieces

By Dave Henning / October 31, 2023

“When dreams shatter, we too need to give ourselves time to gently collect the broken pieces and wrap them respectfully in tears.  This is not about prematurely abandoning hope.  This is about accepting reality. . . .  Rest is essential — a need, not a luxury — when processing loss.”- Alicia Britt Chole “[Jesus] asked […]


The basal ganglia = the holy grail

By Dave Henning / February 16, 2022

“When it comes to habit formation, the basal ganglia is the holy grail.  It’s the place where habits are stored.  It’s the switch that flips our behaviors. . . . the engine that powers our action selection. . . .  The basal ganglia is our chief executive officer when it comes to everyday decisions.”- Mark […]


A misery too great to bear?

By Dave Henning / February 23, 2021

“Forgiveness is not adding on top of your pain a misery too great to bear.  It is exchanging bound-up resentment for a life-giving freedom, thus making the mystery of the workings of God too great to deny.”- Lysa TerKeurst Lysa TerKeurst concludes Chapter 2 of Forgiving What You Can’t Forget as she talks about the […]


Renew my mind – ask God for help

By Dave Henning / April 12, 2020

“On a regular basis, I ask God to help me renew my mind (Romans 12:2) and help me believe what He says about me.  Ask God to help you hear for yourself how He sees you.  Tell God you need a reminder of who you are and who you belong to.”- Esther Fleece Allen “Do […]


Life gets channeled through our hearts

By Dave Henning / January 25, 2019

“Everything we experience is processed through our hearts, the good and the bad.  Life comes at us from all directions, but it all gets channeled through our hearts.”- Andy Stanley In Chapter 4 (“Heart Damage”) of Enemies of the Heart, Andy Stanley observes that all the good and bad of life gets channeled through our […]


Our old coping mechanisms

By Dave Henning / April 14, 2017

” . . . it’s actually a gift from God when our old coping mechanisms no longer help us get by.  When our old standbys break down, it drives us to Him, and to the awareness that we need other people.”- Esther Fleece “But if we walk in the light, as he is in the […]


The snowball effect our coping mechanisms create

By Dave Henning / March 29, 2017

“Such is the snowball effect our coping mechanisms create as we try to avoid pain and instead fall into unhealthy patterns.”- Esther Fleece Esther Fleece concludes Chapter 2 of No More Faking Fine as she presents the fourth and fifth coping mechanisms used to short-circuit the healing process. 4.  “I’ll just put my past behind […]


When our hearts are trained not to lament

By Dave Henning / March 28, 2017

“So it is when our hearts are trained not to lament.  We begin to see ourselves as the protectors and keepers of our hearts instead of leaving that responsibility to God in faith.”- Esther Fleece Today Esther Fleece continues Chapter 2 of No More Faking Fine.  She talks about the third coping mechanism we use to […]


Our coping mechanisms

By Dave Henning / March 26, 2017

“That’s the thing about our coping mechanisms — they are always well-intentioned, but ultimately they do not get us where we want to go.”- Esther Fleece In Chapter 2 (“Letting Go of Our Coping Mechanisms”) of No More Faking Fine, Esther Fleece lists and discusses the false promises of coping mechanisms.  While coping appears  to […]

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