All posts in " trauma "

Wounded healers – our calling

By Dave Henning / February 5, 2023

“In his wounds, Jesus shows himself to be one who identifies — even in a resurrected state — with humanity.  Additionally, the wounds Jesus carries speak powerfully to his followers.  We are called to be wounded healers, but the first part of our calling requires us to be present to the wounds we have carried.”- […]


Triggered feelings cloud our vision

By Dave Henning / February 27, 2021

“Progress is hard to see when triggered feelings make our vision clouded with intense emotions.  And progress with forgiveness can be hard to make when the anger and frustration and confusion from being hurt don’t immediately go away when you verbalize a statement of forgiveness.  But please know, not only is this normal, it’s part […]


Holy instructions versus hurt feelings

By Dave Henning / February 26, 2021

“Hurt feelings sometimes don’t want to cooperate with holy instructions.  That’s why I have to add some of what Jesus did on the cross into this process. . . .  It only makes sense that I include Jesus’ shed blood into my act of forgiveness when accomplishing it on my own feels so hard . […]


The pain of betrayal is relative

By Dave Henning / June 19, 2020

“The pain of betrayal is relative. . . . it depends on the degree of the betrayal.  After thinking about it for years, I came up with a little formula that helps me understand the pain caused by betrayal.  I think of it this way: The pain of betrayal equals the level of trust times […]


Walk through betrayal with someone else

By Dave Henning / June 9, 2020

“You need to walk through [your betrayal] with someone else: a friend, a counselor, a pastor, someone . . . .  Especially if you want to heal from it sooner rather than later.”- Phil Waldrep ” ‘In your anger do not sin.’  Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and […]


Intentionally look up and look around

By Dave Henning / May 12, 2020

“By choosing to intentionally look for God’s provision in your story, you are also making the choice to ‘look up and look around,’ as my pastor Michael Flake always says.  It would be easy to become a navel gazer, just putting your head down and focusing on your own stuff.  And while there can be […]


Place of thriving or existence of surviving

By Dave Henning / June 22, 2018

“When pain monsters come to feed on your broken heart, you will move from a place of thriving into an existence of surviving. . . .  But whatever name you slap on it, pain that isn’t dealt with will eventually require your immediate attention.”- Christa Black Gifford Christa Black Gifford continues Chapter 2 of Heart […]


Needing a good understanding of trauma

By Dave Henning / June 21, 2018

“Most people don’t have a good understanding of trauma.  All they know is that it’s a bad thing that they have tried to avoid as much as possible.  But even with the best efforts to stay clear of collisions in life, sometimes trauma is as unavoidable as encountering the night.”- Christa Black Gifford In Chapter […]


Heart-pain must be felt, embraced

By Dave Henning / June 16, 2018

“Heart-pain . . . never goes away on its own.  It must be felt, embraced, and brought to a Healer.”- Christa Black Gifford In Chapter 1 (“The Broken Heart”) of Heart Made Whole: Turning Your Unhealed Pain Into Your Greatest Strength, Christa Black Gifford poignantly describes the premature birth of her daughter Goldie.  Anticipating the […]

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