Charles Stanley begins Chapter 6 (“Rejection: Overcoming the Most Painful Emotion”) of Emotions by observing that as young children we’re taught that not everyone is going to like us. When the reality of rejection gets personal, however, we are deeply affected, even if we don’t want to admit it.
Although rejection by strangers is painful enough, the most pain and damage is caused by those closest to us. As a result of someone deeming us unlovable, unfit, or worthless, we may subconsciously start to accept that others also hold those same beliefs about us. Dr. Stanley explains why rejection is so devastating:
“Rejection strikes at the foundation of our identity, distorting what we think is true about who we are and what we are worth.”
The author adds that this distortion of our thinking is due to our sinful nature. The injurious messages we receive find fertile soil and take root in our hearts. As a result, we find it much easier to believe the negative things people say about us than encouraging and edifying comments. We must recognize our feelings of rejection and replace them with the truth of Scripture.
Today’s question: In the aftermath of your ministry downsizing or vocation loss, what instances of rejection have caused you the most pain? Please share.
Tomorrow’s blog: “The consequences of rejection- Part 1”
