“The problem with our anger toward God is not the anger itself but how we handle the anger.”- Dr. Gary Chapman As Dr. Gary Chapman concludes Chapter 11 of Anger, he analyzes our anger with God as distorted anger. Even though no wrongdoing occurs on God’s part, we still experience real anger. In addition, Gary states, […]
“The call of God is that we trust Him in the darkness as we trusted Him in the light. He has not changed, even though our circumstances have been painfully altered.”- Dr. Gary Chapman Gary Chapman begins Chapter 11 (“When You are Angry with God”) of Anger by observing that “Christians often experience anger toward […]
“Christians with the aid of the Holy Spirit must always stand ready to forgive, willing and desirous of forgiving, extending forgiveness . . .”- Dr. Gary Chapman “He [Christ] did not retaliate when he was insulted, nor threaten revenge when he suffered. He left his case in the hands of God, who always judges fairly.”- […]
Gary Chapman concludes Chapter 6 of Anger by analyzing how implosion destroys. Next, Dr. Chapman delineates how to diffuse anger turned inward. Often internalized anger expresses itself through passive-aggressive behavior. Although the angry person gives the appearance of serenity, eventually the anger emerges in other ways. Noncompliance illustrates such a response. On the other hand, […]
“Anger repressed can poison a relationship as surely as the cruelest words.”- Dr. Joyce Brothers “Anger was designed to be a visitor, never a resident, in the human heart.”- Dr. Gary Chapman Dr. Gary Chapman begins Chapter 6 (“Explosions and Implosions”) of Anger by noting that “implosive anger can be as damaging as explosive expressions of […]
“Sharing information rather than judgment is the first step in processing distorted anger.”- Dr. Gary Chapman “For every minute you are angry you lose sixty seconds of happiness.”- Ralph Waldo Emerson In Chapter 5 (“How to Handle ‘Bad’ Anger”) of Anger, Gary Chapman contrasts sharing information with sharing a verdict. Sharing a verdict consists of […]
Dr. Gary Chapman concludes Chapter 4 of Anger as he talks about the issue of identifying distorted anger. He repeats the one fundamental difference between distorted and definitive anger. Definitive anger responds to an wrong someone inflicts. In distorted anger, however, a perceived wrong leads to anger. No actual wrongdoing occurs. Treating all anger as definitive causes crucial errors in judgment. […]
“Two kinds of anger exist: definitive and distorted.”- Gary Chapman ” ‘Anger’ is one letter short of ‘danger’.”- Author unknown In Chapter 4 (“When Anger is Wrong”) of Anger, Dr. Gary Chapman states that, due to original sin, we have the “tendency to take every good gift of God and distort it into something perverse.” Specifically, Satan […]
As Gary Chapman concludes Chapter 3 of Anger, he discusses the Christian’s options in response to valid anger. Gary also discusses ways for Christians to take constructive action. 4. Analyze your options. Locating the focus of your anger and quantifying the seriousness of the offense prepares you for this fourth step. Although theoretically many options […]
“Short-tempered people do foolish things.”- Proverbs 14:17 “Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you will ever regret.”- Ambrose Bierce In today’s blog, Dr. Gary Chapman continues his discussion of his five-step process for dealing with valid anger. Gary presents steps two and three today. 2. Restrain your immediate response. […]
“People who fly into a rage always make a bad landing.”- Will Rogers “The challenge is not ‘Don’t get angry’; the challenge is not to sin when we are angry.”- Gary Chapman In Chapter 3 (“When You’re Angry for Good Reason”) of Anger, Dr. Gary Chapman discusses anger toward someone with whom you have a […]
” . . . I believe that human anger is designed by God to motivate us to take constructive action in the face of wrongdoing or when facing injustice.”- Dr. Gary Chapman “A man is about as big as the things that make him angry.”- Winston Churchill In Chapter 2 of Anger (“When Anger Can […]