“Draw near to God, and he will draw near to you. Cleanse your hearts, you sinners, and purify your hearts, you double-minded. Be wretched and mourn and weep. Let your laughter be turned to mourning and your joy to gloom. Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will exalt you.”- James 4:8-10 Today Sara Horn completes […]
“Submit yourselves to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.”- James 4:7 Sara Horn concludes Chapter 7 of How Can I Possibly Forgive? with a discussion of six Steps to Overcoming Discord, based on James 4:7. The first two steps are presented today. 1. Submit to God. We don’t like the word […]
Today Sara Horn concludes her discussion of five myths we fall for when it comes to forgiveness. 3. Myth: Forgiveness requires reconciliation. While forgiveness isn’t optional, settling differences or restoring a relationship isn’t always possible. Someone else generally is part of the conflict equation, and we can’t control or dictate their actions and choices. Although […]
Sara Horn begins Chapter 7 (“Getting Over It and Other Myths”) of How Can I Possibly Forgive? by discussing five myths we fall for when it comes to forgiveness. The first two forgiveness myths are presented in today’s blog. 1. Myth: Forgiveness should be easy. Sara astutely observes that “when we need it, forgiveness seems like […]
In Chapter 6 of How Can I Possibly Forgive?, Sara Horn offers three practical steps for overlooking a specific offense. 1. Stop putting words of value to your hurt. Every time we bring up the subject of what’s bothering us or who’s hurting us by their words or actions, we are sustaining and strengthening the […]
“A person’s wisdom yields patience; it is to one’s glory to overlook an offense.”- Proverbs 19:11 As Sara Horn continues Chapter 6 of How Can I Possibly Forgive?, she pauses to unpack Proverbs 19:11. She believes there are great truths in this Scripture that we can apply when we desire to let go of our hurts. […]
“When we don’t forgive, something dies. Something moves closer to the edge of death.”- Sara Horn As Sara Horn begins Chapter 6 (“Holding On to Hurts”) of How Can I Possibly Forgive?, she stresses that when we continue to harbor resentment and hatred toward those who have wronged us, something dies within us- hope, trust, […]
In Chapter 5 of How Can I Possibly Forgive?, Sara Horn differentiates between venting versus talking. Because Sara has seen more hurt than help happen when people vent, she is convinced that venting doesn’t do us any long-term good. While we think of venting as a way to relieve strong emotions, Sara prefers the appliance […]
Sara Horn begins Chapter 5 (“When You’re the One Who’s Wrong”) of How Can I Possibly Forgive?, she reminds us that many of our hurts are legitimate. Sometimes, however, we are the ones in the wrong. We still desire to hold on to our grudges. It’s much easier to think about what “they” need to […]
“For he has not despised or scorned the suffering of the afflicted one; he has not hidden his face from him but has listened to his cry for help.”- Psalm 22:24 As Sara Horn concludes Chapter 4 of How Can I Possibly Forgive?, she stresses that when we stay focused on our scars, those scars […]
In Chapter 4 (“The Thing About Scars”) of How Can I Possibly Forgive?, Sara Horn states that most people who have physical scars have stories to go with them. However, not all scars can be seen by our eyes. Invisible scars are deep wounds that remain with us and take a long time to heal. […]
Following Chapter 3 of How Can I Possibly Forgive?, Sara Horn discusses five ways to start letting go of bitterness right now. 1. Tell God how you’re feeling. When we keep ignoring the hard feelings about our vocation loss, they build up and grow bigger. Sara stresses that we need to make time to talk […]